I recently was with a couple that was so allowing of each other that it made me just smile. If one person wanted to do an activity, they did it! The key word was, “yes, sure!”
Love reflects the art of allowing your partner to be who they are, without trying to change anything, including their opinions. I always like the idea of saying in any dispute:
“You may be right about that.”
“I understand your position.”
“I respect your opinion.”
“Perhaps we need to look into this further to gain greater understanding.”
What you are saying when you say the above is that you respect the person. You may not agree with what they are saying, but you are allowing the person to be who they are (even if you think they may be wrong). You are accepting them.
When you don’t allow for loving acceptance, it is a prescription for resentment. Allow, allow, allow. We are all on our own spiritual path; growth with either come or not, but nothing will happen if you don’t allow it to.
©Helen Berg, www.helen-berg.com; Twitter: @thebergword.com; https://www.facebook.com/thebergword