What Is True Intimacy?

True intimacy is like a dewy flower fully realized.

What is true intimacy? It’s a knowing of the other person’s likes, wants, needs and desires. It’s a knowing of their hopes and dreams, their deepest fears, and it’s knowing who they are right now and accepting where they are at on their spiritual journey. Once you truly know someone, you are on the path to true intimacy.

True Love is a complete acceptance of every aspect of another’s being; accepting all parts, rejecting nothing, listening to the deepest parts of them, knowing where they are at, but trying to change nothing, and realizing that it is the collection of their experiences, everything they’ve heard, read, experienced, and lived that makes them who they are. When you know and accept the other person fully, that is the beginning of true intimacy.  It has nothing to do with a physical act.

How do you distinguish whether making love is an extension of true intimacy or just another “high”? Ask yourself these questions: “does you partner truly know and understand you?” And, “do you really know and understand your partner?” And knowing all there is to know about the person you truly love, “do you accept every part of them?” And, “do they accept every part of you?” Acceptance is key; truly understanding with compassion is penultimate.

Since True Love has no conditions, and allows each person to fully be who they are, then each person must come to desire physical intimacy at their own pace. Generally that happens when a person feels safe. A person feels safe when they can be their true self around the other person. It also comes when a person feels powerful. True power comes with a knowing that no person, place or thing can ever shake the peaceful center within you because you know yourself, you have nurtured yourself, and you have allowed yourself to bloom into the person you truly are indifferent to the good opinions of others. Then you will be a flower, fully opened, fully realized.

True intimacy cannot be forced any more than one can force a flower to blossom. One should wait until one feels known, understood and accepted. You will know this has happened when you feel comfortable and at ease in your relationship every moment of every day–when there is regular harmony and joy. Then “making love” will be a true joining of mind, body and spirit, and there will be no reservations.

Love, Helen Berg

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Happy Allowing and Accepting

I recently was with a couple that was so allowing of each other that it made me just smile. If one person wanted to do an activity, they did it!  The key word was, “sure.”

Love reflects the art of allowing your partner to be who they are, without trying to change anything, including their opinions. I always like the idea of saying in any dispute:

“You may be right about that.”

“I understand your position.”

“I respect your opinion.”

“Perhaps we need to look into this further to gain greater understanding.”

What you are saying when you say the above is that you respect the person. You may not agree with what they are saying, but you are allowing the person to be who they are (even if you think they may be wrong). You are accepting them.

When you don’t allow for loving acceptance, it is a prescription for resentment. Allow, allow, allow. We are all on our own spiritual path; growth with either come or not, but nothing will happen if you don’t allow it to.

Love, Health and Happiness

Helen Berg, www.helen-berg.com

What Is Love?

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“I am a Divine conduit for transforming the quality of people’s lives.” — Louise Hay

My whole life, I have been on a mission to explore, define and understand the meaning of the words, “True Love.” For me, it has always been about helping people heal their minds, bodies and spirits so that they can grow and bloom.

For most of my life, I broke down problems and counseled people emotionally when they lost their job or were physical injured. Together, we always arrived at solutions that took them positively forward into their future lives. Many times that meant accepting change and creating new visions.

If you are as passionate as I am about finding and maintaining true love, you have come to the right place.  I welcome you to share your stories of how you found true love, and how you maintain it.  True love raises the consciousness of the entire planet.  Together we will find the truth.  If I can lead you to a place of greater love, together we can change the world.

All it takes is courage and the willingness to explore…

Love, Helen

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Live your bliss . . .

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I remember being at the Chopra Center in Carlsbad, CA. I saw an interview with Deepak Chopra on the T.V.  The interviewer asked, “If there is one piece of advice you would give me before you leave, what would that be?” And Deepak said, “Be in love; stay in love.”  Because when you are in a state of love, even if it is a state of being in love with yourself, that is bliss.

I live in love, I live my bliss, I live on purpose.  And I want you to do the same.  Reach down inside yourself, and find that “happy place.”

One of my happy places is running in a field of daisies chasing butterflies with a big butterfly net.  I never catch them, but it is fun just running around in the sun and falling down in all those flowers.  Some days I become the butterfly, and float on the airstreams avoiding the net that everyone else wants to put over me.

That is what we need to do.  Avoid the doubt, the judgment of others, and the limitations you created in your mind.  When you awaken your true self your desires change. You start to want what is actually good for you (and this fuels personal evolution). You’re on “the path” that you were always meant to be on.  When your actions have purpose, everything else in your life lines up with that purpose.

Love, Helen Berg, www.helenberg.com

St. Valentine and Love

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The holiday most associated with February is Valentine’s Day. And so my blog will happily share what I’ve learned this month about the day.

Saint Valentine has long been associated with romantic love and Valentine’s Day. Since the 12th century, the day has become a recognized celebration of romantic love. Not only is St. Valentine a patron saint, but Valentine’s Day is a modern religious holiday.  Before that, people celebrated a mid February pastoral festival for purification and health. Mid February was also connected to the belief that birds began pairing at this time. Whatever the origin, Valentine’s Day is now widely recognized as a day for romance and devotion, and why not? It makes sense to have a day where the collective consciousness of the planet is focus on love, instead of a myriad of other feelings.

To truly celebrate love in all its glories on Valentine’s Day, get quiet and bring the feeling of love into your heart center when you first wake up. Let it bloom into a mediation of the most romantic ideas you can imagine. Perhaps someone has brought you flowers, or made it a special day for you by spending the day with you in love and celebration. Think of thoughts like these. Or think of the person or persons in your life that have made your life meaningful. Dwell on your heart swells and let them expand out until they fill up your whole being. Then let the feeling of love cascade like a waterfall out to your partner and the world.

Give hugs and kisses, and other expressions of your affection. Take a day off from work and walk and hold hands, or cuddle up on the couch. Be present every moment of this one day in love. It will bring renewed joy into your relationship.

If you are still visioning a partner, spiritually wrap your love around everyone you meet. Be extra kind, considerate, caring, compassionate and joyful. On this day when love is celebrated, you may bump into your life partner just around the corner. With your love-beam shining, anything is possible!

You will find that the more you spread love, the more it will naturally come back to you. And don’t forget: you are worthy of all the love in the world. So give yourself a great big hug, too. Spoil yourself with a warm bubble bath or buy yourself some little treat if no one else does. Remember, God’s love is always there, waiting for you to embrace it, and God will embrace you.

I’m sure St. Valentine will be smiling, as will our God in heaven, when you spread love out into the world. For me, I send you warm, cuddly snuggles and heart candies that say, “Joy” “Bliss” “Love” and “Be Mine.”

Happy Valentine’s Day.

Love, Helen Berg

©Helen Berg, www.helen-berg.com

What Is Love?

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Excerpt from “What Is Love?” pp. 91-93 

“True symbiotic Love is pure, free, and enduring. It is a joyful dance of reciprocity between the giver and receiver. Neither person is the center of the equation. Love is the equation. We don’t act out of love; we act in a state of love at all times. It does not wax and wane depending on external or internal conditions. It is unconditional, unchanging and permanent. Our deepest desires and fears can be heard by our significant other because trust is abundant and both are filled with deep respect.

“True Love, Agape Love, embraces the totality of our experience here on earth, every emotion. Even if we make mistakes, and we will, True Love is different than raw desire or needy passion, because our motive is pure. Love can never abandon us unless we lose it in ourselves. We love because that is who we are. We love unconditionally all living creatures, all human beings, because love is all we know, and all we can be. . . .

“True Love is the threshold to all higher energies: bliss, which is a bubbling up of spirit; compassion, which is empathy for another; peace, a prolonged state of joy; and enlightenment, which is the level of powerful divine inspiration—the peak of human consciousness. . . .

“As we study love, become masters of love, and let go of our negative programming, we can know love, joy and peace as we have never known it before. We can have heaven on earth. . . .

“Today, I challenge you to begin anew, and reach for higher levels of loving. I invite you to bring the highest and best qualities of love, Agape love, True Love into all of your relationships.”

Love, peace and happiness,

Helen Berg, www.helen-berg.com

You can purchase a copy of “What is Love? at: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=helen+berg+what+is+love%3F&ref=nb_sb_noss

What Is True Love?

   Excerpt, from “What Is Love” by Helen Berg, pp. 1-2:

            “Love has been defined by masters and sages. Endless stories have been inspired by love, both lamenting and chasing after it.  Every movie has love as part of its plot, and Love inspires endless songs and poems. But, what is this emotion that inspires so much passion, playfulness, fun, joy, longing, loyalty, and when we are separated from it, heartbreak and pain?  That is the burning question.

            “I like to say that Love is a force that cannot be measured by any technology we have today, but it is as pervasive and expansive as the universe itself.  Scientists say that there is a force beyond gravity that holds galaxies, in fact the entire universe, together.  They call it “dark energy.”  I suppose they call it this because it is the space between the atoms, and the unseen energy that holds light bodies together.  I like the name “love energy” better, though I doubt the scientific community will accept it.  As indefinable as “dark energy” is, “love energy” is the same.  I believe it is love energy that not only holds the universe together; it holds all meaningful relationships together.  Love energy is the essence of real love, “True Love,” that binds us to each other, to the world and to everything in it.  When you have love in your heart, and in your life, it feels good.

            “This book is about tapping into this positive, free-flowing energy and expanding it in our everyday lives.  We start with what we know, and what we were taught.  I believe that we knew what love was when we were born, because we came from pure love; we came from a source of True Love. Some call it heaven.  But then we were “taught” what love is by our parents, caregivers, books, television and movies.  Even thought it didn’t always feel good, we accepted what we were taught both consciously and subconsciously.  That knowledge is what we carried forward into our future relationships.  Sometimes the programming was right, but many times, it wasn’t.  Yet we strove on, looking for that which we could not define but which we knew in our hearts existed.  For me, there was a disconnect between the wildly romantic dramas that always led to happy endings, and the romantic relationships in my life.  I sought to figure out why.  I wanted my happy ending.  And so I began a journey of discovery that led to me writing this book. Did I find True Love?  Yes.  But the path wound around confusing me often, but also delighting and inspiring me. This is where I started.”

End of excerpt.


You can purchase a copy of: “What Is Love?” by Helen Berg at: https://www.amazon.com/What-Love-Higher-Levels-Loving/dp/1504339916/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1589913047&sr=8-1

Love, health and happiness,

Helen Berg; http://www.helenberg.com

Your Life Movie

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Excerpt from “What is Love?” by Helen Berg, p. 57-59; All rights reserved.

            “Do you want to be real?  Write your own life movie.  Pen the words and melody to your own song, your own conflicts of heart. Don’t let romance novels, songs, T.V. dramas or even Shakespeare plays define you.  Know who you are.  What is the story of your life?  Start to make a picture.  Remember the good and bad, but then write it down the way you would have liked it to have been, and then start living your life that way.  Write down how you would like your life to be now.  What changes you would like to make.  Frame your life in the most positive light possible.  What’s missing?  Do you want the love of your life?  What does he or she look like?  What does s/he act like?  What is your perfect job?  Think the thoughts you would think if you were a famous singer, composer, painter, CEO, writer; lover and/or partner.  Bethe characters that you would love to play most!  See the relationship you want to have, the partner you want to have.  To be it, you must see it.  

            “Many people spend numerous hours in front of the T.V. But watching someone else’s exciting life is not going to get you there.  How much more meaningful would your life be, if instead of being a silent witness to other people’s lives, you started living your own life, fully, without reservation, honestly, saying what was in your head and in your heart.  What if you lived your life authentically, accepting and being who you truly are?  Not letting fear, guilt or self-judgment prevent you from living your life courageously, joyously and peacefully.  What if you could lovingly accepting all that was in your heart, and be able to express it?  What if you could fully open up and not only be compassionate to what other’s need, but compassionate about what you need and want?  What if you were willing to talk, to listen, to share the human drama however it unfolds every moment of every day, without judgment and without fear? It would be great.  It isgreat.  You just need to see it and do it!

            “Our bodies want to live.  Perhaps that is why so many seek the high of drinking and drugs, escaping the hollowness, the emptiness they feel because they are quietly watching their lives go by, and want something more.  The high makes a person feel more powerful.  “But the balance of nature dictates that to artificially acquire that state without having earned it creates a debt,” and the cost of such stolen pleasure is the desperation of addition.  So drugs and drinking are not the solution, they only cause a greater problem.

            “Interaction with other human beings is the answer. It doesn’t really matter what you do, as long as you do something and pay attention.  Each interaction helps us learn.  We learn what works for us, and what doesn’t.  We get to know what is in our hearts and in our head.  We learn when we fall down, and when we lose our reason.  We look at everything, everyday with new eyes, accepting the mistakes or failure as just one more way not to do a relationship.  You know what is real and good.  Affirm what works for you.  Affirm your values, every day, and don’t compromise what is really important.  If someone can’t accept your values, move on. But don’t accept others’ values as yours.  Don’t let the scripted, edited interactions of T.V. or movies guide you.  Know yourself.  Know your triggers and sensitivities.  Find someone who is compassionate to these.  People fall down, make mistakes, get up, brush themselves off, try again, fall down again, stand up again, laugh, cry, hold hands, kiss, smile, frown, weep and bounce off the walls.  We’re sane, and a little bit crazy, but at the end of the day, the sun sets for all of us.

            “Don’t let the illusions in books, on T.V. or in the movies guide your life.  Live your own story.  Give all your life to it.”

Love, health and happiness,

Helen Berg, www.helenberg.com

You can purchase a copy of: “What Is Love?” by Helen Berg at:

https://www.amazon.com/What-Love-Higher-Levels-Loving/dp/1504339916/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1589915154&sr=8-1


Meditating

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Excerpt from “What is Love” by Helen Berg, pp. 73-74, 84:

            “Sometimes I do an active appreciation meditation. From the moment I wake up, I think about how much I enjoyed sleeping; maybe I feel the softness of the comforter I’m laying under; I smile at the light coming through my window; and if it’s sunny I smile even more.  I think about how wonderful it is that water is showering me and that I have soft towels. And when I sip my tea, it is incredible, the taste!  And food! I’m even crazier about food.  We have such abundance:  God has given us such a bounty of fruits, vegetables, grains; and when I eat vegetables or meat, I bless the spirit of the plant or animal that died so I might eat it; and I take its spirit into me and make it alive again—because all things taken within us become alive in us.   

         “One time I was meditating in the lotus position with hands open on my knees.  I began sending the love energy that was within me out into the universe.  I did this for a few minutes, then focused inward again, and sat quietly.  Suddenly, and quite unexpectedly, I felt a rush of love energy come right back into my hands.  It startled me a bit, but then I realized that all around the world monks, priests, yogis, divine masters and ordinary people are sending out love energy to our world, to all sentient beings and to the universe!  

            “It was at that moment I realized I was not alone.  

            “We are never alone.  

            “We are all connected, whether you want to be or not.  

            “That is why, even when you’re not with someone, you still feel his or her energy. 

            “If you tune in, you can feel other beings.  

            “You can feel God.  

            “You can speak with God, or other divine beings; just like you can chat with your emotions.

            “Meditation is the beginning of understanding, deepening, and opening to all that you are and all that there is.  

            “It is the beginning of finding True Love, the infinite love of the Universe.  

            “You find it in the world because you find it in yourself.  

            “Because you release all negative blocks.

            “Begin. With Love. Here. Now.

I hope you enjoyed this short excerpt from my book. You can purchase a copy of: “What Is Love?” by Helen Berg at: https://www.amazon.com/What-Love-Higher-Levels-Loving/dp/1504339916/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1589913047&sr=8-1

Love, health and happiness,

Helen Berg

Expectations and Beliefs

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Below is an excerpt from “What is Love? by Helen Berg; pp. 49-50; all rights reserved:

Expectations and Beliefs

“Sometimes there are events that we don’t expect that side-blind us.  There was a study I read about once.  It was a rather cruel test.  One monkey was shocked regularly on the hour.  Another monkey was shocked randomly.  The one that was shocked regularly led a fairly normal life, because it knew the shock would come at a certain time, but that it would pass.  The monkey that was shocked at random times, lost its appetite, became withdrawn and grew old very fast.  It never knew when the next shock would come, or how long it would last, and thus it was startled every time.  It’s those side-blinding events that deeply affect us.  Because we don’t expect them, we never see them coming.  Often we bury those feelings the deepest.  Sometimes it takes hypnosis, or other psychotherapy, to bring these deep injuries out. Our expectations can make us suffer.  

           “I think pessimists have it over optimists. My friend once said that pessimists think everything is going to go wrong, and when it doesn’t, they’re pleasantly surprised.  Optimists, on the other hand, think everything is going to work out fine, and when it doesn’t, they’re crushed.  But I think my friend is wrong. What we put in our mind, what we believe will happen, usually does happen. If we think everything is going to go wrong, it probably will.  Not because everything is actually wrong, but rather, because the person thinks it is.  Belief is everything.  Thomas Edison made 199 attempts to invent the light bulb.  His friend asked him how he stayed positive after “failing” 199 times. Edison responded that he didn’t fail. He just learned 199 ways not to make a light bulb!

            “In love, when a relationship doesn’t work out, we can look at it as a failure, or we can look at it as just one more way not to do a relationship.  We can look at what worked, and what didn’t work.  We can expand those things that made us feel good, or made the other person feel good.  Those things that had the opposite effect supply contrast.  None of it is failing if you don’t look at it that way.  It’s simply learning.  When life is most difficult, and when we are most uncomfortable, if we pay attention, that is when we can learn volumes!  It’s like God is trying to get our attention with pain and suffering. God is saying, “Hey!  Look at this!  Why are you feeling or reacting the way you are?  There’s something to work on here!  And if you figure it out, you will grow in understanding about yourself. And next time you see that person, you can do better.”  It’s kind of an “ouch,” then “oh . . .” response.  The last thing you want to do is beat yourself up for something you did or didn’t do.  That doesn’t accomplish anything.  Look at why you did it, and why you feel uncomfortable now.  Dig deep.  The reason may be conditioning from your relationships with your parents or from a former relationship, or even a former life!

           “It’s a matter of shifting perception back to the positive (learning), and away from the negative (dwelling on the painful experience). When we do this, we eliminate the personal hells that can hold us for an eternity.”


End of excerpt.

You can purchase a copy of: “What Is Love?” by Helen Berg at: https://www.amazon.com/What-Love-Higher-Levels-Loving/dp/1504339916/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1589913047&sr=8-1

Love, health and happiness,

Helen Berg; http://www.helenberg.com